Why on Earth was Tim going with them on these lads trips if that's how they were treating him? Knowing all of this, I have no idea why he would've gone on a 3 day trip with your family WITHOUT you unless he felt like he had to. Your wedding day will be one big joke to them. The fact he still wants to continue in this relationship says a lot about his feelings for you. Slashing tires costs money and time and possibly work. I see other people saying this is not pranks but bullying and im like bruh they hid his inhaler!!! Sounds like you have a choice to make. If you ever have children, whos to say they wont bad mouth him to them? At the time I commented, pretty much everyone was saying NTA. AITA for uninviting my stepdad from my wedding so my brothers could come? The straight chess and hypothetical situations could be ruled as pranks and family making sure the new guy isgood enough(very archaic I know). - Reddit, I mean GONDOR calls for aid!! I grew up in a house where my dad would pester us to the point of crying, then get mad that we were crying because "I'm just messing with you!!" I have mild asthma and have never needed a hospital (its either exercise induced, or triggered by my having a cold or something and my immune system deciding that while its doing inflammation anyway why not go into bronchitis for 2 months?). I dont like knowing these guys are running around. NTA but you allowed this to go on way too long. See how man enough they are for the legal system. Your fianc has nothing to prove to anyone, all this is is toxic, insecure men making someone they see as a THREAT feel small. Press J to jump to the feed. You should add /s after your comment. They are cruel people who have been bullying your fianc, these things are not pranks. That could have been fatal. (unsaid: Sir, if it was in the wrong spot, we wouldn't know that, or we wouldn't have put it there now, would we?). They need to massively apologize. I agree. My guess is the OP and her mother have had this done to them all their life because the dad is most likely an abuser. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Im surprised hes stuck around so long. They are criminals acts and dangerous abuse. I am assuming your fiance has been putting up with this out of respect for you and your family. Yup, this is essentially hazing someone who doesn't even want to be in their stupid frat. You say that, but you never see a photo of a neanderthal with an inhaler. Get away from these people and their toxic masculinity. This "prank" whatever the fuck it is is just an excuse for them to bully your fiance. And if I were Tim, I would be reconsidering marrying into your family. And these pranks and challenges are NOT typical men stuff. Its your responsibility to make sure your family members are NOT abusing your partner under the disguise of tests and pranks. pranks have no lasting impact, aside from a shared laugh in the future. Jesus that sounds like a nightmare. I agree!! This is very petty and I dont actually recommend it, but if you really want to ram your point home just be like Im marrying Tim BECAUSE hes not the same kind of man you are lol. I wouldnt want them around any potential future sons. My husbands tires would cost 500-600 per tire, so we would be out 2000 at least if we had issues with all 4 at the same time. Dude couldve died. Theyve done damage to private property and have threatened the life of your fianc. You're siblings are just pissed because now they'll be targeted. Good thing I was completely serious and not sarcastic at all. This is a very important question. Or the time they slashed his tired??? The man loves you but hes at risk of death and financial hardship being associated with you as long as your family is involved. What if he had an asthma attack? Calling him the soft college kid makes it seem like its more about their feelings of inferiority instead of making your fianc prove himself. They are bullies. Definitely NTA. They punch down, not up. So my sister isn't invited.". They separated and very shortly after my dad started dating a women. If I were the step-dad, I'd pull all my wedding funds. Something like if I brake this plate then dad will beat me and not mom Understanding these types of issues helped me see the patterns in my family an step pit of these roles. and our bullying. My relationship with my stepdad has been problematic from the very beginning. Lord knows what they will pull on any kids you have. When you agree to be somebodys partner until their last day you need to have their back when others mess with them. I hope not. They have absolutely no right to keep that information from their patients, but it happens. How exactly is he supposed to fix slashed tires himself other than buying new ones and replacing them. HIDING HIS INHALER? Slashed tires and stolen inhalers aren't pranks, they're crimes. They are all stupid creeps. Or, go rogue - cancel the wedding and elope. NTA. NTA and personally I'd go no contact. NTA and I would've called the cops for the slashed tires. Recently, he TOLD ME he was taking my car to see his bio son. NTA. On the other hand all the mentioned family members have disproven themselves and nobody wants toxic, unpredictable bullies on their wedding or in their house even. "My stepdad did what he could "I literally freaked out because I definitely want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried A woman has been slammed after uninviting her stepdad from her wedding, . From expensive property damage to verbal abuse to life threatening actions. Those family members suck. This is abuse. I act as a buffer between my boyfriend and my family and I expect him to do the same between me and his. ^ u/Throwawayfamily976, the above comment really hit home. NTA - definitely let this be the thing sl that ruins your relationship with your family, as your mom puts it. Your male family members sound like toxic sexist AH, who love bullying under the pretense of how manly they are. Asthma can be lethal, especially in a wilderness situation like camping. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. If not, then OP is out of family members that shouldn't be near them anyways. Or tell Tims's sons their father is "soft" and a wimp? I'd have dipped a long time ago and if they don't stop, her bf will too before long. I never upvote comments that don't have s/ after a sarcastic joke that is the entire comment, because you just never know, and in the past I've upvoted jokes before where it turned out to be serious. They owe the both of you a bit apology but the trust is broken. That's an asthma attack that could turn into a tragedy. NTA. Exactly that. Which is what you're doing. Definitely hold your ground and support your fiance. And you are most definitely NTA. Plus, as a partner (soon to be wife), you need to support and protect your partner from family if they're doing things like this to them. They dont like Tim. He told me how selfish i am and that he wont be coming if my mom is there and that i only got that scholarship because of him. You would also be the asshole if you stay in contact with them and therefore subject Tim to further contact with them as well. Then reply that you lost all respect for them for running to you over a little prank and they should man up already and stop bring soft, NTA Stick to your guns girl. The fun is just bullying and your dad, uncle, and cousins are toxic as fuck. They seem to have missed the point in their fun that their attempts to test your partner will also have shown him what kind of people they are! Theyll make your partners life a misery and at some point youd be forced to choose so you might as well choose your husband-to-be upfront. Slashing someones tires is NOT a prank! NTA. First, none of those "challenges" are typical of things men do and several are legit crimes. It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. You can die from an asthma attack! That's all I think I can say about it without this getting removed, nor does it have to do with the post farther than him being gone. Any children you have could possibly be in danger from them, too. My family might joke around , but not once ever has my dad tried to drive off my bf/fiance/husband. They are driving a wedge. I can replace tires, but that prank wouldve been a hard line for me. What if you had a son? They are just immature jerks. Today the victim is your fiance. I mean, they sound basically awful (and essentially bullies) anyway, but that pitches them from 'boorish' to 'sociopathic'. Wtf ! Who knows what theyre going to pull at the wedding and even after. SSDGM. A lot of the things you describe arent pranks at all. Something they weren't at all worried about. I would contact to acquire an admission of guilt and then take them to court. AHs are still AHs. Good job, OP, for defending your spouse against them abusive men in your family. My brother freaked out saying it was a prank and they were going to give it back, Dad said they'll apologize if I insist but Tim will have lost the little respect they'd gained for him and in their eyes will always be "the soft college kid" who's not up for the challenge. I would keep my future kids the fuck away from those toxic assholes. This is no joke. Either dump the family, or dump the fianc so that he can find someone better. This needing to prove he is a "man" is so toxic. Not only would I keep them disinvited, Id go no contact completely. OP, how have you not filed a police report?? This is NOT pranking its bullying pure and simple. Or he leaves her, and her family continues driving away every decent person until she finally ends up with someone as abusive as they are. NTA, at first I thought a couple pranks like whoopee cushions could be funny but hiding his inhaler is absolutely not a prank. Just a rug sweeper cause family.. That's only if they were "man enough" to tell her the truth. They're fucking nasty and they're doing it on purpose. Exactly. They are so out of line and out of date with what makes a real man. Did they pay for the tyres? (Think judgmental) So I did my darndest to keep him away from them. They don't deserve To go. The only third option is that you stop this dangerous behavior. I usually dont agree with people on this sub when they say to cut people off for the simplest of transgressions, but this is more severe.
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